We had a very busy Fourth of July yesterday and I hope yours was great too.
I joined my husband and VC for a morning at the swimming hole for the yearly celebration. VC brought along his gf and they frolicked until it was game time, so that he could continue his reign as the "best dive/trick" champion.
Not much for swimming or pools, I hung out on the side in my chair and watched the action, in between nagging him to put on more sunscreen and videotaping his dives.
Later we went to the fireworks celebration in another town. We haaaaaad to get there 4 hours early because this my regimented husband MB insists this must be done. We parked in the same parking lot they always park in, but not in the same row of parking so I had to hear all about the benefits of trying to squeeze into the spot on that row that I did not want to try backing into.
It was a long night. I drove home to the sounds of snores.
I went up to talk to VC at night to encourage him to GET TO BED since it was after one.
It was at that point that I got to hear how he views me as "unhappy" because I didn't go in the pool and merely sat on the side in the shade. He pointed out that I didn't speak to any of the people there. A-hem, maybe because they were all there with their own families and I did not know any of them although there were over 100 people at the pool.
He said that he wonders when I am going to be happy and pondered if there is ever going to be anything that makes me happy.
It is truly sad to hear this from your child. I know I am not the most bubbly person, although I am still very sociable when I need to be.
He has said this over the years in passing (the unhappy part).
And it hurts.
Maybe because it is the truth.